1. Lec # 146- 29th Sun of OT- Oct 18, 2015- Fr. Bresowar
    “Can you drink the Cup that I am going to drink?” “Are you willing to do what I have to do?”

    This is what our Lord asks James and John, sons of Zebedee, in the Gospel today.

    They wanted the glory, but they didn’t understand how glory came to be.

    Everyone wants the joy of Easter Sunday, but no one wants the suffering of Good Friday.

    Our Lord is asking us to suffer with Him in order to enter into His glory; he is not simply inviting us to do so. It’s a request of His. Would you suffer for the sake of Love? Would you suffer with Jesus?

    Many people suffer; in fact, if you live long enough, all people suffer. Some suffer to greater degrees than others, but all suffer.

    When we look for a reason as to why we suffer, or why those we care about suffer, we are often times left standing with our hands up in the air and no answer.

    In trying to understand why we suffer, and when we are unable to find an answer, we will generally look to a higher power.

    “Why God, do you allow us to suffer?” And so often we do not receive the answer that satisfies us. This causes many people to make incorrect assertions about God, for example, “God doesn’t care about us.” Or, “God is cruel.” Or, “God must not exist because a loving God wouldn’t allow His people to suffer.”

    These assertions are made because suffering is hard and difficult, and seems meaningless, and we can’t understand why God would allow something so hard and difficult and meaningless for those he loves.

    But just because we do not understand it, doesn’t mean there is no God, or that is doesn’t care, or that He is cruel. 

    Instead we need to understand why suffering exist, and what God did and is doing about it.

    In the beginning, before Adam and Eve sinned, there was no suffering in the world. They were perfectly happy, perfectly content. But they were tempted to become more than that, tempted to be like God, and then they sinned. Suffering was a result of a rebellion against God.

    By sinning, death came into the world. Death is confusion and darkness. It is the opposite of Love and Light. It is darkness, emptiness, pain, physical and spiritual, and it doesn’t make sense. That’s why we try to avoid it most of the time. Suffering was a sign that pointed to death.

    In the Old Testament, suffering was seen as a punishment for sin. So if people suffered, it meant they must have done something wrong, or their ancestors did something wrong. And God would often times allow much suffering as a consequence to his people for rejecting Him. But we can also see in the Old Testament, in the book of Job, that God allows suffering to test us, to see if we will remain faithful.

    In the New Testament, we see God brings forth the solution to death and suffering by taking it on Himself in Jesus Christ, who is true God, and true Man. For only God could be the solution to the problem of evil and suffering in the world. Man could not atone for his rebellion; he needed God to pay the debt, for only God can close the infinite gap that was caused by the infinite offense of sin.

    So in his Loving plan, God enters into the weak and broken human condition, and elevates it to Himself. From the moment we fell into sin through our first parents, Adam and Eve, God already had a plan to save us from death and to transform us into his Love. And this transformation would come by taking the meaningless, confusing, horribleness of human suffering, and using it to defeat death. He didn’t take it away, he enters into it to destroy it, and asks us to do the same with Him.

    Would we be willing to suffer for the sake of Love?

    In many ways we suffer for those we care about by making little sacrifices of love. Would we be willing to do the same with Jesus when we suffer? Can we offer our sufferings up as little sacrifices of love as He did for us?

    Suffering is no longer meaningless, it is transformative. The Holy Spirit uses it to transform us into the Love between the Father and the Son.

    When we say Yes, we are willing to drink that Cup of Suffering, we are saying to our Lord, “We will suffer with you, if it pleases you. If you would let us share in your redemption.” IN this we understand suffering no longer as something to run away from, but rather something to embrace.








  2. Lec # 143- 28th Sun of OT- October 11, 2015- Fr. Bresowar

    There is a program on television that is called “Hoarders Family Secrets.” I’ve only seen a one or two episodes and I’m not even sure if it is still on television. What the show does is it follows the lives of individuals who have a problem with being attached to material things. They collect possessions, and for years the possessions build up so much so that their house is filled with items.

    And it becomes such a problem that other family members and friends must intervene to try and help these individuals get rid of their possessions.

    I watched the show and felt sorry for the individuals because one could literally see how miserable they were. They had a disorder, and they were unable to let go of their possessions. It ruined their lives and the often times, the lives of their family member.

    These were examples of extreme cases of individuals who collected years of possessions and needed to be able to throw some of them out.

    When one watches this program they might compare themselves to these people and think that they are not nearly as attached to their possessions as the individuals on the television.

    And this is often times how we justify our own faults. As individuals, we often times will look at other people who are in worst situations and this makes us feel better about ourselves.

    But in reality, a better thing for all of us to do is not compare ourselves to others. If you remember, that is stage two of the four stages of happiness I talked about a few weeks ago. We don’t want to live in stage two; we want to live in stages three and four.

    The best thing to do is for us to be honest about our material possessions. How attached are we to the things of the world? What item can you just not live without? Our attachments tell us a lot about ourselves.

    And if we look at the Gospel we can learn a lot about ourselves by reflecting on the dialogue between the rich young man and Jesus.

    As the story begins, we hear that a young man came running to Jesus and asked him what must he do to have eternal life?

    “Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?”

    In this exchange we see ourselves as well, eager to attain this joy. Everyone wants eternal life. No one wants to die and not exist anymore, or to die and go to Hell. Everyone wants to be happy forever. Full of energy, full of a life ahead of himself, the young man comes running to Jesus eagerly and asks this question.

    Jesus desires to give this young man exactly what he wants. He knows what will make him happy, what will bring him to fulfillment. And so he answers him and tells him to keep the commandments of the Father. This is to say, do what God tells you and you will be happy.

    The young man declares to Jesus that he has kept the commandants since he was young.

    And Jesus looked at him, and he loved him.

    What a curious thing for St. Mark to put in his Gospel?

    Jesus looks at him with a deep love. You can imagine the face of Jesus looking at you this way. It is like the gaze of a father looking at his son who is trying to do the correct thing.

    But what may be even more surprising is what Jesus said to the young man after giving him this look of love.
    He tells him to go off and sell all his possessions – the very things that this young man is most attached to.
    Now, if Jesus really loved this young man, why would he ask him to give up what he valued most?
    If Jesus really loved this young man, why would he be so demanding? Why would he make him so uncomfortable?
    We all know the answer: it's because love seeks what is best for the beloved.
    Love by its very nature is demanding; it will never settle for mediocrity.
    And this young man, because he was so attached to money, possessions, and worldly success, was in great danger of falling into a mediocre, stifling, and frustrated life.
    And so Jesus, out of love, invites him to choose the path of wisdom instead of comfort, the path of following God's will instead of self will.
    The Lord is constantly doing the same for us: looking at us with deep, personal love, and inviting us to follow him more closely, even though it will mean leaving our comfort behind.
    Jesus knows better than we do what we really want. He knows what will make us happy, and that is why he asks us to not be attached to our worldly possessions because doing so will only lead us to sadness and frustration. Like the young man, if we can’t walk away from all of our worldly ideas about what makes us happy and fulfilled, if we don’t learn to let go and let God be God, then we will end up miserable. There are way too many miserable people out there.   
    Here are some suggestions: When you give, give until hurts. God demands the first fruits, not the last. Too often we only want to give what we are comfortable giving. This shows a lack of trust that God is going to provide for us. If you struggle with attachments, look for ways to fast, to pray more, and live for others.
    He never fails us, he always takes care of us, amazing things happen when we rely less on ourselves and rely more on Him. Wisdom grows, joy increases, and we start to become fulfilled. Jesus knows this, and this is why He tells us that it is necessary.
    So be it.








  3. Lec # 140- 27th Sun of OT- Oct 4, 2015- Fr. Bresowar


    Today, and especially given the crisis that exist today in marriage and family, I am happy that the Church gave us these readings so that I can preach and teach about the nature of marriage and family.

    So, what is God’s plan for man and woman, marriage and family?

    We seem to live in a culture, especially here in the United States, where society believes it is up to men and women to decide for themselves what composes a family, what composes a marriage. And because of this, there are many people who believe that marriage and family can be defined in many different ways.

    The way that God defines marriage, family, and the purpose of men and women, is just one of many ways according to the society that we live. These same people also believe that God’s definition is just as morally good as any other definition.

    However, as Catholics, as Christians who have faith and believe in an all-loving, all-knowing and True, Transcendent God who is Father to us, we must accept as His children, that the creator of the universe and author of human life, knew what He was doing when he gave us the plan, and that because we rejected the plan doesn’t mean that the plan was untrue or false.

    Our acceptance of God’s loving plan for humanity, marriage and family, actually frees us to live as we ought and brings us to completeness. Our rejection of it, as individuals or societies, doesn’t negate it, erase it, or change it; it simply causes us harm.

    So what is his plan?

    Simply this: We are made in God’s image and likeness. Male and female we are made. Equal in dignity, but not the same, we are different. First God made man, but he saw that it was not good that man was alone, so He made all the animals, but still it was not enough, so he made woman. And it was only woman that made man complete.

    So we hear Adam say after the creation of woman,

    "This one, at last, is bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh”

    This indicates completeness. Finally, a suitable companion for man: the woman.

    And for this reason,

    “That is why a man leaves his father and mother
    and clings to his wife,
    and the two of them become one flesh.”

    Remember we hear this story of Adam and Eve before they ate the fruit from the Tree of the knowledge of good and evil, before they fell into the first sin, before they rejected God and His plan. Before all of that we see God’s original design for marriage.

    And in this design, the man and the woman come together and form one flesh union. Not the man and the man, not the woman and the woman, but the man and the woman, whose primary job is to have a family, to go out and multiply and have lots of children. One union, until death do them part. God didn’t design marriage with divorce in his mind.

    This is why Jesus says, in the beginning; there was no divorce in God’s original plan. God allowed them to divorce under the law of Moses because they their hearts were hardened, but it was not originally in God’s plan.

    What we see today, by in large in society, is not what God originally planned.

    Most marriages now end in divorce. Young people aren’t getting married nearly as much because too often the only examples they have are ones of failure.

    We have failed in our culture to adhere to God’s plan and so instead of trying to change that, we try to change the plan by saying it’s okay to divorce, it’s okay to redefine marriage. We say it’s okay to live outside of God’s plan and live as a family even though we are not married. We say that if two people love each other, even though they are of the same sex, why shouldn’t they have the opportunity to marry? We say these things, but we are lying to ourselves. We can’t redefine God’s plan. His plan is perfect, anything other than what he planned, is less than perfect. Why would we aim for less than perfect?

    In reality, it’s not the correct thing to do, and it causes harm and pain, to our families, our society, the common good, but also to our souls and our relationship with God.

    Sadly, many people are unfaithful, sometimes by no fault of the man or the woman, the partner will walk out of a relationship. These realities exist, and no matter what has happened in a person’s life, our job as Christians is not to judge, but to support our brothers and sisters, especially when they are hurting from the reality of divorce, infidelity, broken relationships, broken families and abuse.

    Also, we must try to set good examples for our youth by being faithful to God’s plan.

    I was blessed, more than I know, to come from a family where my parents were committed to each other and to God’s plan. I assumed that this was normal growing up. It was only until I was older that I discovered that many of my friend’s parents were divorced or never married. That many of my friends didn’t have a father, and that some didn’t know their mothers.

    One of my best friends parents got divorced after he had already left and gone off to college. There are so many broken families, broken relationships. We must welcome those who are hurting, no matter what their situation is or has been.

    The Church must be a home for people who are broken and wounded by bad relationships. That doesn’t mean that we redefine the plan of God, it just means that we live it, by being compassionate and merciful, and by trying to be faithful to his plan even if we were not in the past.

    God will not turn us away; he will remain faithful to us even if we are not. But he does challenge us to change and grow, and to understand that his plan is not impossible, but is slowly redeeming.

    Don't be afraid! Don't be afraid to get married and have children! Don't be afraid to do the noble thing and stick with your spouse who you are vowed to until death! Don't be afraid to pray together, share your struggles and weakness with your spouse. Don't be weak Christians who walk away as soon as it takes sacrifice. The family is worth it. Fidelity to Christ is worth it

    Also, we need to do a better job of supporting those who struggle with divorce and broken families. Let us pray that we can do so and look for positive ways we can put our faith into action by looking to support them in the many ways that are available to do so.

    God Bless you.


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